Ok, so ya’ll I’m about to get really personal. You can just skip to the bottom if you want, there are some nuggets towards the end … but this one is pretty juicy so you might want to read from top to bottom. I’m just sayin’.
Enjoy Your Life in IRL
Living our lives for the world to see on social media can rob you of your joy if you’re not careful. Over the past few weeks, I’ve seen a bunch of posts telling women to stop worrying about the marital status of their friends and to trust that their time will come. When I was single, I tried to heed this sort of advice … really, I did. I was the Queen of dating!
On any given Saturday, I might have 3 dates with different guys – a brunch date, an afternoon date, and then a date date. (I was a lawyer in a big law firm and my evenings were unpredictable so I had to maximize my free time on the weekends 😉). Let me be clear, I am a little bit Type A and to be perfectly honest I had a plan. Or so I thought. It wasn’t until I stopped planning for the future and started living in the present that things began to change.
Living in the present allowed me to let go of preconceived notions about what my life should be like and gave me permission to enjoy my life as it was. I had an amazing set of friends (you can read about my fierce lady friendships, here), a good job, and a loving family. The more I let go of what I thought my life would be like, the happier I became. Rather than begrudge others for their happiness, I flew to weddings (often solo), milestone birthday parties, and baby showers to fete my friends and their good fortunes. Truthfully, I was having a ball and living on my own terms.
Was my life perfect? Far from it! But, I learned that perfection doesn’t exist and that making lemonade out of lemons is an achievable reality. Was this my daily existence? Girl please, I was (and still am) a work in progress, but it was certainly something I strived for daily.
Trust It Will Happen
I trusted that my time would come and promised myself that when it did I would be ready. Ready? Confident in who I was and what I was about so that when the right person came along, I’d be a good partner. Some of my friends seemed to have been born with these characteristics. My little sis got lessons in Girl 101 that I clearly missed out on … but, all of this is to say that if you tell the universe what you want and hold up your part of the bargain, your time will come to pass.
Take this in-between time to grow and get ready. Marriage is an adventure into parts unknown. I am beyond grateful to be on this journey with my best friend who supports my dreams, holds my hand when things get hard, and who loves me just for me, but sis – trust and believe marriage is not a destination. The Odyssey begins after you say I do.
So in the meantime and in between time, make your own magic girlfriend. You never know who or what is around the corner.
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