What About Your Friends?

It’s no secret that I came of age in NYC when Sex In The City was airing on HBO. The lives of Carrie, Miranda, Charlotte and Samantha eerily mirrored those of my friends and I. I loved the show for many reasons, but in particular, the portrayal of the strong bond between 4 very different women captured my heart. Perhaps it was because, some of my closest friends and I couldn’t be more different from one another if we tried.

But, if I’m being totally honest, I think it really had to do with the fact that the show legitimized me and my friends in a way that my family and friends who lived outside of New York could finally understand why meeting MR. RIGHT wasn’t always my priority. I had a family. I had support. I had love.⁣

Don’t get me wrong, I love my husband dearly … he’s the yin to my yang. But, there’s something about a good girlfriend. All those years ago, when Charlotte said, “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with,” it struck a chord. In the space of 5 days in January 2020, I lost 2 girlfriends. Both soulmates – one from my adult married years and one from childhood. So, as we enter this month of love and recognition, celebrate your greatest loves. And lucky for you, if you’ve got a girlfriend or two who slots into this category!

Do what you can to continually nourish those friendships. It takes time and effort, but nothing worth having comes easily.

Stylishly yours, Kalyn

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  1. Sam Coco
    April 1, 2020 / 4:14 am

    Yes. My girlfriends have always validated me, affirmed me, forgiven me, and celebrate me and I have done the same. They make me feel LOVED. Great post.

    • kalyn
      May 12, 2020 / 2:16 pm

      Girlfreinds are the best, right? So glad you can relate!

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